- my birthday
- Mother's Day
- Little Man's Birthday
- Diesel's Birthday
- Father's Day
- our anniversary
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
The Present Dilemma
Late April to Late June are chock full of celebrations for the Cluttered Family. Starting in late April, we have the following birthdays/celebrations approximately every 1-2 weeks:
With space at a premium in our home and now that we're really trying to be intentional about what we allow to take up this space, I'm finding myself struggling with how to convey to friends & family that while we appreciate gifts for such occasions, they really don't need to buy us gifts for these occasions-- or how to convey that IF they feel they want to give us something, to ask what it is we really need or want.
Of course, some of these occasions, like Mother's and Father's Day and our anniversary are ones that will just be celebrated by the 3 (and eventually 4) people in our family, so there is more "control" there. For the past few years we've done nothing for Mother's and Father's Day, and will probably continue with this until the boys start bringing home macaroni adorned crafts and handmade cards from school. Our anniversary also goes by without gifts and fanfare. We usually try to go out to dinner and last year, being a milestone anniversary, we took a trip, but we don't give each other gifts and dinner is usually something non-extravagant.
But how to deal with the well-intentioned gift givers who give us things we don't need or have space for? I don't mean to sound ungrateful. Quite the opposite, I'm very grateful that there are people who love us and are so very generous with us. It just creates a new layer of how to de-stuff our home and life-- and how to convey that to the people we know an love in a non-offensive way.